I have had a similar experience with my In Laws over the last few weeks.
I found out my WAW has been seeing OM since a few weeks before Christmas, all that time my MIL was telling me that she thinks we will get back together and that my W had told her that she doesn’t think OM is the answer, etc, etc. She would then relay this info to me as she wants us to get back together, she lights two candles each day for us and prays, etc, etc.
She hasn’t so much as told lies as bent the truth to keep me hanging in there!! When my W wanted me to come round and spend Christmas day with them, my MIL told her it wasn’t fair bringing me round when she was seeing the OM, I didn’t find out about the OM until 3rd Jan!! I should get angry at her knowing, but I realize she was trying to do what she thought was in the best interests of us getting back together.
I do believe that my In Laws are all rooting for me and care a lot for me as I think they do in your sitch. Remember though that blood is thicker than water and that they will always do what’s best for there sons or daughters interest. My In Laws tell me they would never accept this OM into there house, etc, etc. But over time these feelings subside.
I am trying to cool the contact with my in laws now as I don’t want to put them in a position where they have to lie, better to stay dark from them as much as possible.
They do care about us, but remember the Blood being thicker than water statement when dealing with them.
I’m sure that like me Sportster, you see the contact with your In Laws as a route to your H. Just don’t let your H see it that way!!
Its a nightmare we are in and its not our In laws doing either, they are just trying to keep both of you happy !!
