Well, just like the fat years after lean years is true, so is the opposite. Last night I took the syrup again (so did my SBXH) and it did a number on me. I just couldn't sleep, kept itching, my SBXH was annoyed at me that when I wanted to snuggle I would get him overheated (in the temperature way, not emotional), that I would make a lot of noise tossing and turning and he couldn't sleep either. He had some nightmares about his friend that supposedly was in Thailand during Tsunami and he still doesn't know how to find out if he is okay and the dream was about him being dead. I tried to talk to him about maybe just going on some board where they list the names of the victims if it bothers him so much (duh! he has nightmares about it since he doesn't know what's going on) but he just brushed it off. I gave him a squeeze on the arm, he thanked me for the hug. It was like 2 am and we were both tossing and turning (he did not mention anything about sex and I did not want to come across as using him so I didn't either) and finally I said to maybe just take a shot of tequila and that would help him sleep. We both took a shot, He still tossed and turned, I finally said - if you want a quicky I'm up for it. He declined.
Finally I guess we fell asleep but when he woke up this AM to go to work (it's my day off) he said he was really tired when I asked him how he felt. He is staying in the city longer meeting up with buddies for the "Geek night" (going to the movies to see Electra) so he'll be home late (hopefully he remembered to take his key with him this time ).
So, just like you called it - he is withdrawing again. It's okay, the syrup made me itchy and stay up but it also made me feel happy. I was lying there in a bed smiling thinking about how excited and curious I am about my future, that I will be happy and it's just a matter of believing in it.
Now when it comes to your IL situation. I have no contact with my IL's. They don't call me, when they want to talk to SBXH they call his cell phone so that I would not by any chance pick up the phone and so they wouldn't have to talk to me (that's my take on it). Even when we were "happily married" they would only call like once every couple of months...but now it's a different situation. I am disappointed in them for many reasons and unfortunatelly the silence only adds to that disappointment.
I think you are lucky that your IL's show you support. They don't want to hurt you with details that would plant ideas in your head and let your immagination run wild. Did they tell you H was spending the NYE with them or was it your assumption or your question to them? It's different when they say a lie and little different when they make it up in response to your inquiry. I do feel that it was nothing done out of spite for you - only out of love and concern.
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