Shawn, I don't mean to be vindictive. I think it would be counterproductive to what I have already accomplished. It's more for the peace of my mind and to make sure that I'm not a doormat. I was lied to by him just so he could feel better about his choices and actions. He DID leave me for another woman despite of what he was trying to convince himself. I don't want to be the monster that he is making me out to be in his D papers. He cited extreme mental cruelty (also added harm done to the physical well being due to stress) and I don't agree. It's a way for a closure for me. I probably will not go for it anyway, don't want to spend more money than necessary plus the answer to his suit was filed and I denied the mental cruelty. I guess I'll just wait and see.
He is not bringing anything up - it's almost like he hopes that the things will miracleously fall into a place that's good for him. If he is to keep the house he needs to refinance it or start working on obtaining the equity loan that he is planning to use to buy me out and help him with finances until he decides to move or whatever. But all those things take time - he is not aware of it or is this a total denial? I am not comfortable moving out without all those things straighten out because I don't want to ruin my credit history with my name still on the deed and him not being able to pay mortgage and all other expenses (which he will not be able to do on single income with things the way they are now).
