Jenny wrote: ----------- Telling him that I love him or paying more attention to his other needs is not enough to make him more sexually "willing". He needs me to be more playful and sexy in order for him to be more sexually willing. Basically, I have to simultaneously act like I couldn't care less whether or not we have sex and be completely seductive at the same time. -----------
That is an interesting statement.
Basically, he needs you to play facilitator (mom), yet again, in order for him to perform.
I don't see this as a sexual issue.
He needs to be willing to show up bedside, woody or no, and work WITH you.
You need to be willing to show up bedside, Hubby desirous or no, and work WITH him.
It looks to me like a lot of withholding due to resentment is going on in your marriage.
It is hard to do someone that you resent.
Is there any chance of counseling or his coming to this board and sharing his side of the issues?
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
