This occurred to me while I was using a musical metaphor over on JJ's thread.
Corri, someone suggested you become an actor in your R, and you said you are an actor (by profession?). When they suggested you become an actor, I think you took it that you should pretend to feel something you are not feeling.
But what if you approached it as a professional actor approaches a serious role? Don't the great professional actors go way beyond "pretending" when they perform a role? Don't they move us because they reach down inside themselves and discover the place where they are or at least are like the character? Don't they find a common human ground between themselves and the character... and when they "act" that character what we are really seeing is into the actor's soul-- and that is what makes the emotional connection (there's that word again!) with the audience?
For you to act the role of a high-er D wife-- I wouldn't think it would be all that difficult. Again, I'm not suggesting you do anything you do not feel. If you were faced with the opportunity to play a very HD wife on stage, how would you approach it? Yes, there is risk to bring out those very personal and vulnerable parts of yourself...and in your R, the stakes are very high...
Disclaimer: please, please don't think I'm saying you should walk around acting like a phoney. I'm saying use the tools of your profession to find the truth of who you are sexually (as you would for a role), and bring out that truth in your R. Maybe you already do this.
I was talking on JJ's thread about someone who plays a musical instrument with great technical skill but doesn't let the passion flow. I was just discussing this very topic this morning with someone-- we were talking about a mutual friend who is a professional concert violinist. This violinist is extremely technically competent-- a perfectionist, in fact. But sometimes you want to hear complete emotional abandon, not absolute technical perfection. Then I thought about what you said about acting... and wanted to apply the same principle. Look inside and find the passion-- as an actor must-- and display that.
It's interesting... people go nuts over rock and pop stars who aren't necessarily very good musicians because they spill their guts out on the stage. They CONNECT. Can you imagine a rock star who just gets up on stage and goes through the motions with no passion?
