Corri wrote: Try to fathom this. What it's like to do something with your spouse, on a consistent basis, that you have no physical urge, want or need to do... and in fact, you are the one to bring it up, and do it with enthusiasm? At least three times a week? ----------------
I know exactly what you mean. This was a HUGE issue for me in my M.
I was expected to do precisely this re:my W's LL. I couldn't do it without her making some adjustments in mine. That's why we're where we are today.
If your H isn't speaking your LL, he can't truly expect you to speak his. The success of the NOPs is that they learned to do just that, IMO.
BUT, even if he's unwilling to speak your LL, he's going to feel controlled by you in his. He has the LL thing plus the physical need adding to it. It's the nature of the beast, or as many W would say, "why M are pigs".
