Quote: Corri, do you ever ML when you don't want to just because you love him and want to do something nice for him?
Yeah, I do it all the time. But like I said, if I were to bring that up, it would be incredibly hurtful to him. I understand what you are all saying.
Did anybody here understand what **I** was saying about being on the other side of the fence? This part:
Quote: Sometimes I want to scream at him because it is SO easy for him to tap into physical desire. It's a well with no bottom. I think to myself, "well shiit yeah, if I had a bottomless well of desire, you'd have to strap on five more peters to keep up with me, baby." He has absolutely no appreciation whatsoever of what I go through for him to find water for he has never, ever, ever, been without, and can't even imagine what it would be like to NOT have water.
I try to give him comparisons so he can understand, like, how he has no interest whatsoever in 'shopping,' or eating leftovers the next night (on a regular basis). He says that isn't even a practical comparison because sex is a physical need... I can shop with other people. I can eat other things. He can't have sex with someone else.
And I say to him... it isn't about me being able to do those things with other people. It is about the absence of interest. The absence of desire to shop or eat leftovers. You have no desire to do that, right? There is no physical or emotional urge present for you to do so. Because I can go shopping with someone else, because I can eat something other than leftovers, you will never know what it is like to not only have to make yourself WANT to do those things, but actually be the one to suggest doing them, and suggesting it with enthusiasm.
This does not occur to you because how can you miss what you have never had? And because I can share my desire to shop with others and eat leftovers without you, you will never know the struggle to overcome the absence of desire.
Can anybody here relate to that? What it's like to do something with your spouse, on a consistent basis, that you have no physical urge, want or need to do... and in fact, you are the one to bring it up, and do it with enthusiasm? At least three times a week?
I'm not being sarcastic or self-pitying here... really, can you share these stories with me, just to give me hope?
