Holy sh!t....I'm married to your doppelganger. WE HAD ALMOST THE EXACT CONVO a few months ago.
Here's what he is saying....
"Corri, I want the ability to seduce you into a state of insatiable horniness without having to overtly ask you for it. I want to dress nice, take you to dinner and have you start groping me on the way home because you are excited about the idea of getting into the bed with me. I want to feel like a rockstar sometimes so I can have the power to choose. Hell women can have sex any time they want...they can just go to the bar and say yes...I want that power. It's not that I'm really horny for sex...I'm really horny to have some control over you. There's something wrong with my esteem that makes me feel like I need dominate."
Ok, I purposely brain-bumped every possibility here. You know him better than I do. My real point is this...it's not really your problem other than the fact that you have find a way to work with him on HIS problem. The convo made me fall out of my chair. I guess I'm more like him than I thought...damn (but I still wouldn't cum in places you asked me not to).
He's looking for the same thing I'm looking for...he wants to validate his manliness and studliness with his ability to make another woman's panties melt with desire. Is this a valid validation? Probably not but some of us guys feel that way to varying degrees. I bet most guys who go through this were not very promiscuous / sexy in HS and college but have now grown into a much better package (at least we think we have) with a bit of that maturity that only a bit of age and income can bring. (I'm half way talking out the side of my mouth with this...it's partially sarcastic).
I hope this helped. I'm glad you are here. You and my W have a heck of a lot in common but I'd worship her if she learned to introspect like you.
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