I need to think about this one. I gotta say that I am rather surprised that your friend getting hit on more than you has had such an effect on you. BFD? I know it's an ego boost and all... but why do you need the ego boost?
This is YOUR issue, not your wife's. And it sounds like you are feeling rather guilty about it.
Quote: As he is growing into the "image" of a successful family guy, a small part of him might want to pretend to be a swinging pornstar. You, on the other hand might have some legacy junk too which made this act a much bigger deal. It hurt and his first response to it was juvenile, but that might just be *him* just as my compulsion to get phone numbers is *me*.
Don't go there. Don't try to find a reason to pin half the blame on me.
Dave... it really sounds like you are in a tailspin to me, and I'd encourage you to go back to the shrink. You coming to grips with your 'self-image' is very important. And it is your image, no one elses.
