I wasn't sure he would turn around... I have to say that I really had to think about my approach to him on this. If I go in, guns blazing, he just shuts down and gets mean. (Can't really blame him). Yet, I can't be too subtle or he misses the point completely.
I also had to change tactics, and make my boundary very clear to him without coming off as threatening. Whatever that feeling was that came over me the other day really helped me step back from my emotions and define for myself what the issues were.
After a fight like the one we had the other night, I could stew and stew and stew over something like that for weeks, elongating the pain, and just making matters worse, quite frankly.
But when I realized I was uninterested in dipping back into theatrics and drama, it was astounding how quickly my revelations came pouring in... I dunno. It was weird. Almost like an out of body experience...
