Corri: I was not saying that you should tolerate his assness or laugh it off and say, What a teenager you are!...
Not at all.
What I was saying was that, if you look beneath the delivery, you and he are saying the same thing to each other: I am not happy with the status of the R.
That seems, to me, to be a very positive sign and a joint place from which to start.
I understand that you are DONE being the R coach and I don't blame you. It is an exhausting, thankless, and fruitless role. What I don't understand is the "I'll do it if I want" approach. This sounds like a recipe for disaster to me. He has already been living this lifestyle and it really hasn't worked for him, or your M.
If you are adopting that approach because your H won't agree to do anything else, then I get it and understand and applaud you. If you are adopting it because you are sick of trying, well, then I'm going to be the first saying Get back in the game, girl.
One question: How was this addressed in MC? I'm specifically talking about him meeting YOUR needs. What did he agree to and how did that all pan out?
One last one: How does your husband usually bring it up that he is dissatisfied with the R? Is it in this same stellar fashion that he used the other night?
