I have no doubt you know what needs to be done( and will do it). The difficult thing, in my mind, is that you are put in the position of having to do it. It would have been nice to have that safety net of an H who has "internalized" this process, but under stress I guess the old defensive style kicks in. Stay strong and have those talks...hopefully it won't require the same degree of work and he'll get it.
((((( Corri)))))
IHJ-- btw, I agree with NOP; get that "friend" out of your life.
