I hate to say this, but to me, the BJ is the DEFINING point in a relationship. This is a boundry between the two of you to true intimacy. I love to do ANYTHING for my wife, I LOVE to give her head to the point of her squirming all around as I try to hold her to my face. Men want the same in return. Sharing a load of semen with the wife is the ULTIMATE form of intimacy. Reject his penis (or semen) and you REJECT him.
What I have seen is that women LOVE to receive head, but can't offer the same in return. This ALWAYS creates an unbalanced relationship, and yes, it can be devastating. BJ's are like the defining point between HD and LW women. This is in effect the way he is evaluating your desire for him.
