Corri, At one time my business was almost too much for me to handel. I worked for several days and only got about half of what I repaired to work correctly or the customers wanted things "right now."
I came home and my W asked me do something so trivial and unimportant that tool a lot of time. I kind of lost it. I told her her penny-andy playthings would be important to someone who had nothing to do all day, but was working 12 hr days and not keeping my head above water.
Anyway, I think you mentioned he got a promotion at work or a more stressful job. Is your H's job overwhelming him? Does his job make him feel he deserves a certain amount of request following? Some managers I have worked for have implide I woulld like to do what they asked after I did the job one time. IE. (try swollowing one time, it might not be that bad mentality from your H). This is another common myth some men might have.
About you excusing him for being drunk. I do not cut much slack for a person being drunk. Some, yes, but not much.
When you cut people slack one time they want you to extend that slack when they are not drunk. Peolpe need to be responsible drunk or not, peroid, end of sentenance.
My views on swallowing, I never insist a person do something that causes anxiety or they are wery comfortable doing. I expect the same thing in return. If you make someone do something they do not want to do, do they lose respect for you? I do not want that to happen.
