I don't think enough can be said about the problems of imaginary lovers. When you have to resort to masturbation as often as us HD men have to, your thoughts can get pretty intense. When I masturbate now, I sure as heck don't think of the current version of my wife. I will either dream someone up, or I will remember back to the days when my wife HAD a sex drive. It is terribly ironic that my wife loses in these situations because she can not even compare to her old self. It's almost like the OW could be herself from 15 years ago! (I do not have an OW, and never have). Unfortunately my wife is being compared to her former self and she is losing! Is there a way to change this, I am not so sure, it is very hard to forget the way things USED to be.
