I am just going to jump in here and have at it. I know you are tough, but this is going to sting - maybe a lot.
Let me also say that I always try to post as usefully, as accurately, and honestly as possible. This time, I hope I am dead wrong.
The thing that jumps out at me the loudest is the paradigm shift in your husbands respect of you.
That shift concerns me because it was a serious enough shift that it caused a breach of trust.
The question to me becomes one of why the sudden shift in the importance of respecting your boundaries or breaking your trust.
From the resources I have studied, when a seemingly sudden change in a spouses respect for the other spouse occurs, a third party has often entered the relationship. There are other 'suspicious' changes that go along with this.
You have indicated a couple (or more) times lately that "something isn't right". You obviously are having a gut reaction to 'something'.
Now that I have gotten that part out of the way, there are some other possibilities.
1) I am dead wrong and he just had a responsibility level brain fart. I hope that is the case.
2) Maybe he is just talking about his marital situation with a female coworker that he has begun to feel attracted to, and the attraction is still just at the emotional level.
3) Maybe he really is stressed enough to do some goofy things.
Wether or not he is entertaining some outside influence, his respect of the relationship is hitting the bottom of the tank. His behavior is odd enough to warrant concern.
Maybe there are other men that don't know when they are going to come. I have never met a man that was that way. I certainly know well in advance before I do - EVERY TIME. I believe that he did what he did on purpose.
I am sorry for this post being somewhat disjointed. I had it all planned out hours ago, but tiredness has taken over.
His greatest concern seemed to be your not giving him any more blow jobs rather than his offense to you. If he is not engaged in an inappropriate extracurricular activity, then his fear that 'Mom' will take away his toy because he abused it, deserves some serious counseling from a professional.
Lastly, I don't want to overreact to an innocent mistake, but I have been keeping up with you and your relationship from the beginning, and this behavior is out of character for your husband. Any spouse that exhibits a sudden increase in their sense of entitlement raises all of my flags.
I will stop now due to brain fade. More later if warranted.
Please let me know what you think.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
