Okay TAG, I'll get that started for you tomorrow and I'll put a link in it to this thread too.
I hear you on why you can't move there without a job, that's why I suggested that you start looking now. I understand that you can't go back until you find one and since you don't know how long that will take, it's best to start putting your resume out to some headhunters in your home area.
I'll have some suggestions on how to ask your W those 'why' questions. I would do it tonight, but I'm too tired. Sorry. I'll do one so you can get an idea on where I'm going with it.
2. Why after complaining I'm not home and she has to take care of things does W tell me don't come home to care for the car repair?
"W, I'm a little confused as to what you meant when you wanted me to take of things because I thought I could take care of the car repair for you. Is there something specific that you need done?
You may not get the response you're looking for the first few times you try this approach because it's new and she'll be confused by it. But it is a much gentler approach than a 'why' because it doesn't sound accusatory.
