I wish that I could help with your situation. In all honesty, I have no idea how to work with you on healing a long distance relationship.
I have no idea how your wife is really responding to your actions, and you can't see her face when you talk to her on the phone.
If I were asked what you would need to do to resolve your relationship, here is what I would tell you.
1) Hire a private investigator and find out what is going on with your wife.
2) Move home.
3) Immediately start counseling with a pro-marriage counselor with your wife, or if she won't go, then do it by yourself.
4) Get in charge of your finances. Divide up your financial obligations. Separate all checking accounts and credit cards.
5) Get to know your daughter. Spend time with her. Give her time with you so that she learns who you are, not who your wife is telling her you are.
6) Directly confront your wife about reconciling your marriage.
I mentioned a book to you several times. The reason I did that is because I think it contains information that you need to hear and understand.
I really wish you all the best. -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
