For some time I've politely hinted the transmission in the car needs attention so on my last day at home I took it to the repair shop and guess what? Yep $4,000! Now past W complaints was she had to do stuff because I was traveling so I called and offered to come home and attend to the repair. W's response? "I don't need you to come home I can take care of it." Now I'm lost. What is it? You want me to care for the repair or not? Otherwise W goes black. No communication. Last visit she said her "life is trouble free until I come home and she emotes." Now, is it that my absence is more peaceful and my presence makes her re-live this agony she perceives? So am I making progess returning home and letting her emote while I validate her feelings or should I stay away? Help? P.S. Anyone know how I can rename this thread and move it to another forum?
