Quote: Her rage continued. She's emoting but I can't seem to find a way to channel it to problem solving.
At this point I would advise to you just sit and listen without defending yourself AT ALL. Just affirm her anger and say you understand why she feels that way and you are sorry. Don't get into how you're trying to change things, or how you plan to be different, etc. Just let her empty herself completely... you just stand there and take whatever she dishes out, no matter how unjust, no matter how much it hurts... you continue to be present completely and full of compassion. You must respect the place where she is. You must reach inside yourself and remember a time when you felt that bad about something and just let her pummel you. For as long as it takes. No defenses. No complaining. What she has to say will not kill you. Listen very carefully. Don't try to "channel" anything. She's in the driver's seat and she needs to take the vehicle where she needs it to go. Do you trust her enough to do this?
