TAGIII wrote ------- I've returned to the USA and went to movie and dinner with W last night. I'm not sure if we are progressing or regressing. Dinner was devoid of old complaints. But she was distant. Counselor says in phone conversation W has same feelings. Most of her conversation tends to be critical. Maybe I'm thick but I'm not sensing progress or maybe I'm plum worn out? ---------------- {Maybe I'm thick but I'm not sensing progress} progress={Dinner was devoid of old complaints} Reduction of attacks and complaints. (But she was distant) I think she said she did not want to see much of you. Progress= W went to dinner with you. {I'm plum worn out?} progress= W is willing to see you and lets you do the majority of the R work. Yes it is tiring to feel like you are the only one doing the R work.
You just got back! Do not expect W to go from attacking you to loving you. Re-establishing good feelings between you two most likely will take a long time in your time reference. The books say it takes a month for every year that your W "said" she was unhappy to heal the M. And do not expect to have the old M back. You are getting a new negoiated M most likely. What ever that entails?
OG Lou. Been at this a year. Some huggs and kisses are being returned. Over all W is more pleasant and somewhat happier.
