I know what it is to be tapped out. I have already experienced the big D and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I am sure that I did the right thing in that instance but part of me still wonders if I couldn't have just lived a permanent separation and learned to deal. The funny thing is that my sex drive was a factor in knowing that I couldn't live a permanent separation. I knew that I would eventually want to have sex and for moral reasons I wouldn't just want to take a lover. I have no great suggestions except to read over the archives here - some of these folks are much more helpful than any marriage book.
