Corri said: ------------- I'm still pondering how to address this. It's gotta be some kind of boundary thing and I don't think I've clearly set one. -------------
For a while, I was certain that MrsNOP was a nasty mean bitch that intended to screw with my head and heart by avoiding sex with me.
For a while, MrsNOP couldn't comprehend how I could intentionally ignore, in fact, dismiss her needs.
The truth is that neither of us were intentionally being malicious. We were both guarding our own hearts and interests.
I don't think you need a boundary. I think you need for your husband to really understand the problem. Boundaries are a good thing and work well where needed, but a boundary won't legislate the need for relational negotiation. That takes real effort from both spouses, even if that effort is initially unbalanced.
I am really sorry that your feelings are hurt. If I could, I would punch him in the arm and say "Geez, wake up, man. You are hurting your wife". It looks like you will have to do it instead.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
