Quote: I really didn't have to give up anything, what I did have to do was to make sure that my interests included my wife's needs.
Can you elaborate a bit on that, NOP? For instance, did that include carving out a time during the day just for her? What tangible things did you do differently?
I don't think that it has registered yet, with my H, that meeting my needs means changing his daily routine in a tangible way to actually include time carved out just for me. I believe that he still thinks that it will naturally happen on its own, if it was meant to be on that particular day. Of course, this is never going to happen on its own; we will constantly need to provide a space in which we can reconnect with each other.
I do believe he will come to this realization (perhaps even without me dragging him by his fingernails) but I was wondering if there was a point in which you began living your day differently, in order to meet her needs.
