Your H definately showed some bad manners here. The question is - did he intend to? The intent is what makes it passive-agressive or not. Maybe he thought it was humorous. My ex-H used to say this kind of stuff in a humorous way as an attempt to really say "please love me even when I say juvenile bs".
I like Lous response. Another choice might be to expose the disconnected nature of a "bid" like that. You might say "Would you like fries with that?"
I think that there must be some action you can take or a sentance or two that could put things back on track without you having to take up the R guantlet. Sometimes if you just expose someone's crappiness it is enough to move things.
