It is my time of the month this week; and yes, I think the way H approaches it is very rude.
Quote: Is he saying to you that he would really like it if sometime you just came to bed and surprised him with a BJ? It feels like he is putting you on the spot to "give"... I know that approach doesn't bring out my generous side. It's saying " I want this gift now; I do my part at other times so I deserve this now" rather than " I would really love this gift from you; it would mean a lot to me since I am feeling so exhausted these days," and then giving you time to respond.
No, he's not asking me to surpise him with a BJ sometime, because I would have absolutely no problem with that whatsoever. It is more along the lines of: "I want this gift now; and you should want to give it to me."
We had sex Saturday night, I started on Monday. I had a raging headache on Tuesday (which I seldom get... it was very odd, darn near a migraine, but I caught it early enough). I told him about my headache... and he looks at me and says he has a dick ache.
I think to myself, "that was really an [censored] thing to say." But I didn't say anything because I was too caught up in my own pain to pursue it.
He's tired. He's crabby and he's stressed from work. He's going 12 to 13 hours a day. He seldom, if ever, gets home from work before 6:30. And he's usually picking up the kids from Hockey before he gets home. (He wants to do it...) So, he's ambling in around 7-7:30, 8 p.m. most nights. In bed by 10.
He started in on me the other day about how our sex life sucks, and I stopped him right there and said, "that was a really mean thing to say to me. I don't appreciate it. If you have something you need to discuss, let's discuss it. If you think we need to work on something, tell me what it is, and let's figure out how'll WE'LL work on it. But I don't deserve pot shots."
He said he was sorry, and let it go.
I'm holding onto myself, but I'm really confused myself here. Trying to figure it out...
