On another note regarding the "immaturity" issue. My mother is not my confidante and she is somewhat mean-spirited. She refers to my H (but not to his face) as the "pampered prince". She told me that my mother-in-law( his own mother!) asked her when I was going to leave my H. The general consensus in the "real" world seems to be that I put up with too much and get too little from this relationship. This is true even though "the mothers" don't know about our sex problems(unless my sister has very loose lips ).
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
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