I've decided that my new attitude is that I'm kind of regarding my H's sex drive as a force of nature, like the rain, over which I have little control. If it rains on a regular basis, my crops will grow and I'll be happy and healthy. If it doesn't rain for a while, I'll do a little rain dance, seed a couple clouds and put in an irrigation system and if it starts to rain, once again my crops will be growing. If the rain never comes and my crops start wilting, I will seek out greener pastures in which I can once again be happy and healthy.
The strange thing is this attitude makes it more likely that I'll be content with my marriage rather than less likely because I'm not trying to decide what to do or how to feel based on former weather patterns, good or bad, or future predictions, good or bad, I'm just taking each day as it comes, minding my own crops.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
