Quote: How does being in love with your H fit into the analogy?
I'm "in love" with him when I appreciate the beauty in him. On another thread, NOP talked about falling in love with his wife's face. I think what he meant was that he fell in love with the beauty of her character as reflected in her face. Obviously, this is better than falling in love with someone because of the beauty of their breasts, since the beauty of your breasts rarely reflects the beauty of your character (though it might reflect a little of your character in terms of your willingness to workout and apply firming creams etc. etc. )
To a certain extent you can be "in love" with someone without being "emotionally connected" to them or you can be "emotionally fused" with someone without being "in love" with them. IMO, the person with whom you are "emotionally fused" and "in love" might not be as "emotionally fused" or as "in love" with you as you are with them, but two people always share the exact same level of "emotional connection" because you can't do "emotional connection" on your own by definition. Of course, I might be wrong in my thinking. What does Corri think?
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
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