psluke

I like what sage and you had to a add about the burning amber and letting go not for them but for us. I would've never pegged my SBXH for someone who deliberatly tries to hurt other people - quite the opposite. He would go out of his way not to do it. But then again, I would've never pegged him for someone who will leave me for OW.

OOPS, little bitter up there so I"m moving to next line.
Focusing on good things in my life is what actually got me to achieve the sense of "almost peace" that I'm in right now. I know that I"m not a freak of nature and people still love me and therefore I"m woth being loved. I have wonderful friends and family, wonderful pets and once I move out I'll have a place that I will make wonderful to live in. That's a helpful distraction from the thought and my own version of your self talk when I can't stop thinking about my SBXH's actions and their affect on me.