psluke This is a great post - helpful in attempting to get past the hurt that happened in the PAST but what about the continuing pain? I know that the moment it happens it's already in the past - where do we draw a line in not letting it get to us when we are still going through it? I guess once the D is final you really shouldn't view anything that WAS does at this point as the attempt to hurt you. It's their life now and they really don't need to worry about your feelings. Of course it's different when they go out of their way to hurt you and spell it out for you any chance they get.
