Hi LnL - Thanks for the affirmation - I was begining to feel that my 'irritation' was unreasonable I suppose because of my lower tolerance for loose ends, over the 20 years I've let myself drift into picking up the bulk of my chores. His betrayal has made me question everything, including my habits...
Quote: Can I ask, what areas is NG good in - car maintenance, DIY, garden jobs, cooking, whatever - something that might balance out what you do?
Well yes, he takes care of taking the car for service, its his job to load the dishwasher (tho he 'forgot' to do it last night, so I had to do it before heading off to work), he used to do quite a lot of DIY around the house, but I cannot recall in the past 3-4 years anything that was done.
To be honest, I have made some changes that have made me feel a lot less like I was an unpaid maid - I now only load clothes into the washing machine if they are in the laundry basket. He has about 6 shirts and 4 pants that are in various places around hthe dressing room, but I'm managing to hold firm and not interfere. A small thing, but one that seems to be an important statement, for me anyways.
I suppose because of my lower tolerance for loose ends, over the 20 years I've let myself drift into picking up the bulk of my chores. His betrayal has made me question everything, including my habits... 
