Delighting in Details

[Livnlearn]

NG decided he had to do some work on Saturday, which left me more than a little miffed as I was left sorting through our bank papers by myself. I've noticed lately that there is resentment building inside me regarding the share of 'our' work that I end up doing. I don't want to feel resentful, but am not yet comfortable just neglecting errands (which is a talent NG has in abundance) Asking him to pitch in has not worked. Thoughts anyone

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This is the problem I had in our M. Although H brought home the bacon, I always felt resentment that he did precious little else around the place. So if I had gone out and 'got a job like everyone else' would I have been doing all the work at home as well?? So he could ease up on his work? Which in any case was never that onerous.

Just having had him here for two days last week reminded me that he doesn't clear up after himself, tidy up after himself, remember that there are others in the house to share the food with, etc etc.

I would like to know how people tackle this issue.

Can I ask, what areas is NG good in - car maintenance, DIY, garden jobs, cooking, whatever - something that might balance out what you do? Do you at least implicitly agree that not EVERYTHING has to be split meticulolusly down the middle, and that you each have areas of greater competence? Sometimes we overlook what the other person does because we don't do it ourselves. Just a thought.

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