Wonder - Thank you so much for the awesome feedback! This is a subject I think will be constantly re-visited in my life, not just with NG but with others too.
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Is it a type of connection that neither of you are familiar with... perhaps that's true too. I think we know when we are connected with someone... and sometimes it takes forms that aren't our "prescribed definition", so we get confused.

I do believe we are in the phase of it (intimacy) not being 'prescribed definition' - for the simple reason that defining intimacy is not a discussion we have ever had. I see NG doing things with/for me that he has never done before, and it feels wonderful, but I guess I'm getting stuck in my own 'prescribed definition'. For the most part, I think I'm happy to go along with the flow with him for now, my musings will be reserved for here But yes, at some time, I do believe it will be my job to raise the issue of what I want. NG is nowhere near ready for this though, IMO.

In the meantime, I'm letting him see my daily worries and vulnerabilities with everyone and everything else, and he is doing a great job stepping up to being supportive. Slowly, the dynamics between us is changing. I'm enjoying being both participant and observer Worries and vulnerabilities about him, or our relationship, will most certainly have him running to the hills, so no comment seems to be the best approach for now.

Slowly



A Liberal Allowance of Time