Anytime I ask a question that is beyond the utterly mundane, his stock answer is 'Why are you asking that?" It seems to me he wants to be aware of the motive behind the question. Frankly its driving me nuts. Sometime I just say never mind and move on - though I'm fairly sure that's not his intent.
Well...have you been asking a lot of questions lately? Is there a hint of something behind the questions that you're asking?
At one point during the bomb dropping phase h told me that every question I asked him felt like an inquisition. So, I stopped asking questions...including the mundane! It was an enormously hard habit to break for me (and even though I'm now a lot more comfortable asking questions he still gets a bit terse and lets me know if I'm asking too many!). Anyway...when I stopped...I realized that while sometimes "what did you eat for lunch" meant just that...at other times it meant "where were you for lunch" -- you know? There was a tacit querying or dare I say, inquisition type element to my questions. No doubt my h was picking up on that and overlaying each and every question with that nuance.
Do you feel like you could stop asking stuff for a while?
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
