Hi Mojo - I like alternative perspectives, and to be honest, these days, I 'forget' more than I remember, and it is getting better all the time. My issue is one of respect and trust. Every time I catch NG telling fibs, I go back to the bad place where I wonder how to have intimacy in my life without trust or respect. I found this over at Wonder's thread
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I keep coming back to the bits in Susan Anderson's book about love and connection... that "love isn't pursuit, isn't infatuation". That it is trust and respect and admiration and caring. It is what we're doing and the sparks we are letting in. That it's not the emotional hunger we might be used to from all that time trying to win over an unavailable partner.

Respect is important to me, and every time he lies, he is being disrespectful to himself, and to me. Where is this going How can we have true intimacy without respect?

I think the answer is in time. Probably.

Slowly

A Liberal Allowance of Time