Hi Lnl - No, it was not preachy at all - I really appreciate your feedback
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One thing I'd like to point out, is that if someone is not that into gift giving, cards etc, it is very likely that this is because it was not a ritual in HIS family while growing up. Not a part of the family culture. Would I be right there?

You are dead right! In his life, he has received more birthday gifts from my mother than his mother, for example. I cannot recall him sending anything to any of his relatives, and when they thank us for the stuff we send, he is almost always surprised because he was not interested when I was updating him So yes, it is not personal, but one of my long term goals is to have him treat me differently. I'll not not wig out in the meantime, though. I promise
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And Slowly, have you explicitely owned up to any of your shortcomings to your H?


Lnl - this is a tough one. I'm still feeling my way through just for myself, and to be honest, in true dbing style, I'm adopting a solution based approach, just focusing on what I want to change. Owning up to NG - gee, according to him, there was nothing wrong, so how do I start

Slowly

A Liberal Allowance of Time