Hi Ellie, Michele and Pen - I still find NG's perspective of the a fascinating
Quote: Sure, my H should have never taken any of those steps. But she definitely was on the hunt - and H never realized it at the time. It was only later, after we had been reconciled for a while, that he realized he had been had.
Pre-dbing, I recall chatting with NG about how ow has been after him for years while they were colleagues, and NG defended her, that she was not that kind of woman, yada yada yada - and Ellie, just as you say, here we are, he can see a different side to it.
Michele and Pen, unfortunately there is also a lot of truth in your words. Part of this new position is NG trying to wriggle out of his responsibilities - he is a major problem avoider, and is even now thinking how to justify his actions to himself. The other part is just reality - ow is, in his words, 'lesser' than me in every way, except she was there to listen without judgement. (Yeah, I used to express a lot of opinions ). NG tells me that ow lessened the pressure on him once she realised she 'could not hold a candle to me' when it came to his affections - so NG must be going through the process of trying to figure out why it all started in the first place...
I'll keep y'all posted as more of his tortured thinking is revealed
). NG tells me that ow lessened the pressure on him once she realised she 'could not hold a candle to me' when it came to his affections - so NG must be going through the process of trying to figure out why it all started in the first place...
