Hi LnL - Yes, I often think of sharing the love languages book with NG, but honestly, he is just not ready to think of my needs
Quote: Many guys are just not that into card giving, leaving notes, little gifts, marking special occasions etc. Is NG one of those, or has he just changed recently?
No, he has not changed at all - that's my point. Why go through all this pain only to fall back to old patterns We did have an interesting chat yesterday when he asked me why I was upset on Monday. I told him that at least an acknowledgement of my card, perhaps a hug, would have been nice. To just ignore it was painful. He had nothing to say.
A little later he tells me he is struggling with his guilt, and sometimes is just unable to engage with me. That he regrets the a, that he was 'taken advantage' of by ow. I reminded (yeah, stupid me) him that he used to maintain that it was he who started the a, and therefore it was his 'responsibility' to make sure the ending is as painless for her as possible. To which he responded, its always the woman chasing the man. Hmmm. I'm not sure where he is going with this, but by my reckoning, NG is a long way from being healed, if he is still unable to confront his role in the a.
We did have an interesting chat yesterday when he asked me why I was upset on Monday. I told him that at least an acknowledgement of my card, perhaps a hug, would have been nice. To just ignore it was painful. He had nothing to say. 
