I think there’s a difference between „asking for what you want“ because you deserve it, and “nagging” for something because you’re insecure. Which can be the same thing, by the way.
Totally confused yet?
As in ….. you can ask NG to talk to you/help with cooking because you deserve not to slave in the kitchen while honey is on the couch (metaphorically) ….. or you can ask him to join you because you feel insecure about your relationship if he doesn’t. One is from a position of strength, the other from a position of weakness. Our spouses pick up on the difference, trust me. Realizing (down to your bones) that you’re a fabulous person and that NG is one lucky fella to have you is the key. So keep doing the stuff that is making YOU feel good about YOU!!
As for being a bit “mysterious” and a little less available, I’m all for it.
