Happy Monday everyone! How incredible that its February tomorrow Feb 14th marks my first anniversary on this bb, what a lifetime this past year has been... Feb 14th is also the 21st anniversary of NG and I becoming 'an item' - he took me dancing, paid a fortune at the club, kissed me on our first dance, and we left immediately - ahhh sweet memories

NG actually took an earlier flight home on Friday - I barely managed to get my manicure done. It was a happy reunion, though he had no comment about my new skirt - I'll live - the admiring glances from strangers is sufficient for now - well, it'll have to be, won't it Friday night was fab and went a long way to soothe my frayed nerves

A wonderful weekend, I was totally relaxed, did not make any plans and NG seemed utterly content. I've dug up this from an earlier post by Ellie over at GBO's
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Quality time is undoubtedly one of your H's LLs, as it is my H's. When H calls me and I am busy and kind of "hurrying up" the phone call - he hates that! (In fact, this is a good reminder to me, as I think I've slipped back into that a little.)

Okay, I know this is a quandary - how do you do the 180 of being less available and moving on with your life - and still speak his LL of quality time? Hmmmmm....not sure - but when my H was home but pushing me away - I did it with little things like sitting next to him while he had breakfast (instead of doing the dishes), sitting on the couch with him at night while he read (instead of working on the computer right next to it), looking directly at him when he spoke to me and listening more intently (instead of being distracted by the kids or multitasking).

This is so us - NG just wants to be, I obsess about the stuff that needs to be done - what a waste of my time. I'm learning to co-exist with the unresolved, it certainly seems to make for more harmony at home, and hey, I get away with doing less

I've been planning a build-up to Valentine's day, nothing extravagant, just light hearted and a wee bit cheeky. Invite NG to be a little playful too. Let's see how it goes.

Slowly

A Liberal Allowance of Time