Hie Maya, Betsey, Jennifer and GBO - Its been a rough time with the cold, which became a chest infection very quickly. Thankfully the old shot of brandy every nite chased the bugs away, and I'm back on my feet. I expect it'll be another week before I'm completely a-ok, but it has been time well spent processing some stuff going on here
Which in itself has been strange. There is nothing going on, and yet a lot of serious stuff emerging. A couple of weeks ago, as NG was going out to bat with his family, I was feeling strangely disconnected with him. Like, happy he was fighting my corner, but honestly, I did not even know there were problems until after it was all over. He has been keeping their 'snipes' from me - another example of the 'protectiveness'. Anyhow, the argument escalated to now between his sibling and his mum - and he opened up on some ancient history to help me understand the dynamics. This itself is new, his opening up without me prompting. I'm finding that the less I ask, the more he tells.
And so there we had it, a great opportunity for me to db. I kind of pointed out that it was wrong of his siblings to hold a grudge against their parents for so long, we are talking about incompatibility going back 30 years. Suggested he took a lead in helping everyone understand that we are all different people, it is time to let go and move on. No point staying together as a family if betterness and resentment is just under the surface. Somewhere along the conversation, I know we were subtly addressing the issue of forgiveness between us. We are both still feeling raw, and in no shape to have a direct conversation, but I sense a lightness in him that was not there 2 weeks ago.
