Slowly, I have been taking coach training to buff up my skills (Achievement #4, Goal #3 ) and wanted to comment on Wonder's third point.
Quote: 3. Sharing the goals with people who will support you and who will actually ask you how you're doing with them. (For me, this usually means emails of good resources or casual questions that force me to admit I haven't done anything in weeks on said goal).
This is one of the fundamental elements of one-on-one coaching -- accountability and responsibility. If you aren't working with a coach or a therapist, you might find a friend who you can check in with weekly or every other week to share your progress. You can even do it reciprocally. For me, it's been important to share my goals and achievements with someone responsible and worthy of my trust, since trust was so badly eroded in my M. That's another goal for this year, to rebuild my ability to trust appropriately.
It will be interesting to see if meeting some of your goals here in the near term work to allay your "rampant insecurities". The anger, resentment and forgiveness? I think that is on its own schedule and can't be hurried. Have I recommended Dr. Janis Spring's book "How Can I Forgive You?" It's excellent.
) and wanted to comment on Wonder's third point. 
