Hi Michele - I love your two cents - yes, it does make sense to have some things that are achievable - like updating my wardrobe, scheduling some renovations, getting our Orient Express holiday.
On the other hand, I really must also address some tough ones like rampant insecurities, lingering anger and resentment, the big one on forgiveness. Ugh. Up to now, I've been of the mind that until NG is ready, there is little for me to do. Changing the dynamics between us on regular interactions was tough enough. But I see him drifting aimlessly, and feel that I need to now plan my agenda, or be drifting myself.
Taking my time over this though. I'm also trying to figure out steps 3 and 4 that Wonder had outlined
Quote: 3. Sharing the goals with people who will support you and who will actually ask you how you're doing with them. (For me, this usually means emails of good resources or casual questions that force me to admit I haven't done anything in weeks on said goal).
4. Coming up with a systemthat you can deal with. I use the notes page each month in my calendar to make my lists. I've learned three things about what works for me-- it needs to be in my face, it needs to involve my penchant for writing stuff down and it needs to be fun not an ordeal.
Slowly 
