Quote: Your wife is not broken. She choses to remain STUCK. Have you considered one of those Marriage Encounter Weekends some people have talked about on here? You need help to get her to a point where she is willing to self-confront. I can't tell you how terrifying it is. I think Liliperl was the one who compared it to like, fear of spiders and how people get over phobias.
I've wanted to do something like a MCW for quite some time, but I haven't mentioned it to W. Maybe it says that I've become a defeatist, but the fact is: I haven't brought it up because I really haven't had any hope that it would help. We've spent untold hours and tens of thousands of dollars on C's, but W has steadfastly refused to either talk about or address any sexual issues. Why would a Marriage Encounter Weekend be any different?
I've known it before, but it's just since coming here that I've really accepted the sitch. I now really understand that this is a choice that W has made and is continuing to make. My past efforts have been directed toward “fixing” her. Now I finally understand that I can’t fix her. Now, instead of fixing her, I’ve moved to a two-pronged approach. My goals now are to better understand and improve myself, and then to try to find a way to help motivate W to do the same. That’s way more simplistic than the reality, but I’ve never being accused at being good at articulating my feelings.
