Great post, Corri! I think that knowing yourself is the key to making the most out of life, not just sex. You should be proud of yourself for doing the work to find out what you like and standing up for it.
On the childhood adaptability/HD connection, I didn't move much but my parents had an unstable M. I learned early on that I couldn't count on anything that my Dad promised and the money was too tight to expect much of anything. I remember as a 7yo wanting to get M and have a bunch of kids in a happy home.
