Beautiful post. It was my lack of understanding of myself and my own issues that led to my disastrous first M. It is my fledgling acceptance of myself and my own preferences that has led me to state my preferences in this M. I really do agree that HD/LD really doesn't have that much to do with it. It isn't a descriptor of who a person is fundamentally - merely a descriptor of where they are in THAT relationship at THAT point in time. The presence of frequent desire has come and gone in my life as a result of many things. The fact that it is as constant as it is now is because I have finally learned to tune in to that part of myself despite life issues, because I love and respect my H and because I enjoy sex. The fact that my H feels differently or handles his sexuality differently is difficult for me. Meeting somewhere in the middle would be wonderful. Getting to the point where we are each able to express our sexual selves comfortably would be even better.
