I am in total agreement with Dave and Corri. ANY improvement you see in your relationship will be a direct reflection of improvements you've made within yourself. If your spouse doesn't make similar improvements within him/herself, your relationship may end, but you will still feel good about yourself. Fortunately, I think it's more likely than not that your spouse will rise to the challenge, but maybe not in the manner or along the timeframe that you had in mind. For instance, my H has responded to my improved physical appearance with more improvement in expressing affection than improvement in expressing himself sexually. This has caused me a bit of confusion because it was the equivalent of going to market to exchange wheat for beef and getting offered sugar instead. OTH, I like some sugar too, so this improvement in his behavior did add value to the relationship for me.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
