Your H sounds quite a bit like mine. Just a few weeks ago I had to address his lack of enthusiasm about ML. He was fine with our schedule of once a week...but he'd sit back and wait for me to do EVERYTHING...I finally told him that wasn't acceptable. I explained that he needed to not only be present so we could ML, he needed to participate as well.
I'm getting better at really communicating how his actions (or lack thereof) affect me...I'm finding this is making the biggest impact for us. I'm becoming a better communicator...he's learning to really listen and understand.
