I suspect this question is aimed mostly at the females here but I know that the total absence of interest by the spouse plays havoc with my self confidence. Losing one's confidence is definitely not sexy and I struggle with this amidst feelings of loneliness, self doubt and depression - again these feelings impact on my self image. I know these feelings are not particularly rational and that our total absence of a sex life has little to do with me, but who said feelings are rational?
